In my past I've loved people who wanted me to be someone I wasn't. Usually this is disguised as wanting someone to grow and reach a new potential, and that it's something that you should strive to do. That they're helping you mature or that they are helping you learn to like, or care about, or laugh at BETTER things. The things they approve of. Sure there are flaws that people shouldn't accept in their mates- people that suffer from rage issues or addictions or narcissism and a bunch of others- these should be addressed of course- but for me, this poster came from thinking about the parts of myself that I wanted to change because I wanted this person to like me more- only to realize that I didn't want to be someone else- that I wanted them to want the person I was- not the person they could turn me into. A love that comes from someone loving the person that you ARE- before the makeover- brings out the best in you and gives you the support and encouragement to change and grow for YOU and not for someone else. That's a change that sticks- and a love that sticks too.