In life there are relationships worth fighting for. They could be friendships that stumble over a conflict that requires hugs and apologies, romantic relationships that require compromise or counseling. Many of these moments require us to work in order to repair what's broken. But sometimes- it's best to just move on. It's hard to know the difference between something toxic or abusive and something worth saving. I think some people almost need permission to let go. Loyalty is a wonderful thing- as is a resolution that can create a closer bond between people, but sometimes it's better to mend what you can and walk away. Of course this is tricky- I'm not saying anyone should just dump their friends and loved ones that aren't meeting their standards- I'm talking about the relationships that make you feel small, that serve only to bring you down or hurt you. We hold on to these because of a history or simply because no one told us we were allowed to stop trying- and often this is long after the other person has given up doing any work of their own- we just keep patching over our own feelings and watching as the relationship limps along. Sometimes you just need to let go. This can be done without massive drama- sometimes it's nothing more than just saying "I refuse to let this person be a negative influence in my life" and just phase out the elements of the relationship that you're allowing to effect you. Other times it's more of a clean break. The important thing to do is to forgive them for the flawed relationship and forgive yourself for not being able to make those flaws go away.